Questions
Everything you'd want to know before starting. If you still have questions, reach out and we can help.
What couples say
"We've been together for eight years and I still learned things about my husband I didn't know. The communication section especially — seeing his answers next to mine made something click that I'd been trying to put into words for years."
"We're engaged and felt like we'd talked about everything. This showed us we hadn't — not because we'd avoided things, but because some questions never come up naturally. The finances and family sections opened up the best conversation we've had."
"The LMFT session was what made it. She'd read our results beforehand and came prepared with actual observations about us specifically. Not generic advice — our stuff. It was the most useful session we've spent on our relationship."
"Simple, clean, and useful. I was skeptical because I've tried other relationship apps and they felt gimmicky. This felt like something I could actually use. The side-by-side comparison is exactly the right format."
"We gave this to ourselves as a 5th anniversary gift and I'm so glad we did. The 'Our Story' exercises brought up things we hadn't thought about in years, in the best way. The physical gift box was beautiful too."
"We did this before moving in together. So many of our early disagreements were just expectations that hadn't been said out loud — finances especially. Wish we'd done it sooner."
On the experience
"We thought we knew each other. We did, but not precisely. Attune gave us a shared language for things we'd been circling around for years."
Have you completed Attune?
We'd love to hear what Attune was like for you and your partner. Reviews help other couples decide if it's right for them.
Leave a review →Two exercises. About 25 minutes each. Everything you learn is yours to keep.
Getting started
Each partner completes two exercises independently, you don't see each other's answers while you're doing them. Once both partners have finished both exercises, your results unlock simultaneously. You'll see a side-by-side comparison of how you each answered, along with observations specific to your pairing. The whole thing takes about 25 minutes per person.
There is no deadline. Your partner can complete their exercises tomorrow, next month, or a year from now — and your results will unlock the moment they finish.
You each complete the exercises on your own schedule. Your answers are saved permanently. There's no expiration, no pressure, and no need to coordinate timing. This is especially worth knowing if you're giving Attune as a gift — the recipient's partner can come back to it whenever they're ready.
No. Your individual answers are completely private until both partners have completed both exercises. This is intentional, answering honestly is only possible when you know your partner isn't watching. Once both of you are done, everything unlocks together at the same moment.
Most people finish each exercise in 12–15 minutes, so both exercises together take about 25–30 minutes per person. There's no time pressure, you can pause and come back. Your answers are saved automatically as you go.
The exercises & results
Your results are a side-by-side comparison, not a score or compatibility percentage. You'll see how each of you answered across all 10 communication dimensions and 10 expectation categories, with observations written specifically for your combination. There are also conversation starters drawn from the areas where your answers reveal something worth exploring most. See our packages page for a full breakdown.
Not exactly. Attune isn't about labeling who you are as a person, it's about understanding how you each tend to show up, and what that means for you two specifically. The goal isn't to give you a type; it's to surface the things you'd normally take years to understand about each other, and give you a shared language for them.
Not at all. Differences aren't a problem, unnamed differences are. Couples who navigate differences well aren't the ones without them; they're the ones who see them clearly. Attune is designed to surface those differences in a structure that makes them easier to talk about, not harder.
Attune is a tool, not a therapist. It gives you a structured way to understand each other more deeply, useful on its own, or as a starting point for deeper work. Our Premium package includes a 50-minute session with a licensed LMFT who reviews your results beforehand, which is a great bridge between self-guided insight and professional support.
Packages & purchasing
All packages include both exercises and full joint results. The differences are in what's added: the Starting Out Collection adds a relationship checklist; the Relationship Reflection Collection adds our Relationship Story exercise; Premium adds a 50-minute LMFT session with a licensed therapist who reviews your results beforehand. See the full breakdown on our packages page.
No. Attune is a one-time purchase, pay once, yours permanently. Your results live in your portal with no time limit and no recurring charges. We believe in owning what you buy. The only optional add-ons are the Personalized Workbook (digital or printed) and the LMFT session, both of which are also one-time purchases.
Yes, and it's a meaningful one. You can purchase any package for another couple, and they'll receive instructions for setting up their own accounts and completing the exercises. See all gifting options on our packages page.
The Personalized Workbook is an add-on available after you complete both exercises. It's built from your actual joint results, conversation starters, reflection activities, and guided exercises drawn from the areas most meaningful to your relationship. Available as a digital PDF ($19) or printed, bound, and shipped ($39). Not generic relationship content, your results, structured for you to work through together.
Privacy & data
Yes. Your individual answers are not visible to your partner until both of you have completed both exercises. After results unlock, you'll both be able to see the side-by-side view. We never sell or share your personal data. See our full privacy policy for details.
Yes. You can request data deletion at any time by emailing hello@attune-relationships.com. We'll remove your account and all associated data within 30 days.
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